Heartbreak is an Opportunity

Love sometimes ends in heartbreak. The sting of heartbreak can feel eerily similar to physical pain. The death of a spouse, a long-term relationship abruptly ending, a close friendship broken off, whatever the specific situation, heartbreak stems from a connection with another person no longer being feasible or possible. This break throws you into the unmarked territory of living without their presence. You can feel lost and unsure of what to do starting fresh without that person in your life. However, it is in the shadows of despair that the most is learned about yourself. In the darkness, you are able to unlock access to who you really are as a person. By being brutally honest with yourself and giving into all of the raw emotions felt, heartbreak can be a valuable opportunity to carve the path forward for the rest of your life.

Humans are social beings and are not meant to be alone. When a sudden change in one’s life happens where their partner is no longer present, they are thrown essentially into a perpetual “fight or flight” mode where survival is on the mind. This mode is not healthy to live in for long periods of time and must be surmounted. Healing takes time and time makes all things easier, but the initial period can feel impossible to escape. It is in this first period that they must be absolutely honest with their emotions. Do not flee from these feelings, embrace them. Come to terms with the sadness. Realize the sadness. Understand the sadness and loss. Use these learnings to grow and move on. Use these learnings to find acceptance. Use these learnings to begin connecting with others again.

The immediate period after a heartbreak provides instant solitude. After feelings of sadness are reconciled, the pain felt can be turned into fuel to add motivation to any pursuit in your life. Meaning can be found in times of heartbreak because you are uniquely and surprisingly alone. Your other half is no longer with you. It is simply you. Use this period to lock in and emerge even stronger, even more determined, and even better than when you were in your prior relationship. Life goes on when a relationship ends, yours does not stop. Take the time you need and then add kindling to the fire within. Everything happens for a reason and this heartbreak you feel is a minor roadblock in the story of your life yet to be written.

Heartbreak is an opportunity because it is a forced reset. It is a forced reset of who is closest to you. It removes that person from your life and puts you alone. In the alone time, you are absolutely bare and naked with your emotions. You are able to discover new things about yourself and totally focus and escape to your points of release. Heartbreak is not fun but can be used to find the path forward for the rest of your life. Do not succumb to the despair, use it as a means to evolve and begin anew. You emerge from heartbreak like Spring emerges from a long Winter. You will blossom and form new relationships. You will blossom and find success where you wish. You will blossom and realize that heartbreak was the best thing that ever happened to you because heartbreak is an opportunity.